Questions parents ask

Supporting Your Young Athlete

What should I say to my child after a tough loss?

Start by saying nothing about the game itself. Let them feel what they feel. On the drive home, try something like 'I loved watching you play today.' Focus on effort and the fact that you were there - not the result. The post-game conversation shapes how they feel about sport more than the game itself.

How do I know if my kid is burning out from sport?

Watch for changes in behaviour: dreading training they used to love, unexplained injuries or illness before events, increased irritability, or saying they want to quit out of nowhere. Burnout often looks like laziness but is actually emotional exhaustion. Talk to them without judgement and listen to what they are really saying.

Should I talk to my child's coach about playing time?

In most cases, encourage your child to have that conversation themselves - it builds resilience and communication skills. If your child is too young or the situation involves safety or wellbeing, approach the coach calmly and ask questions rather than making demands. Focus on your child's development, not the outcome.

Is it okay to let my child quit a sport?

Yes, sometimes quitting is the right call. The key is understanding why. If they are burnt out, being bullied, or genuinely unhappy, forcing them to continue can damage their relationship with sport entirely. Have an honest conversation, agree on a timeline, and respect their feelings. The goal is a lifelong love of being active, not finishing every season.

How do I support my child without putting too much pressure on them?

Ask about their experience, not their performance. Instead of 'Did you win?' try 'Did you have fun?' or 'What was the best part?' Show up, cheer for the whole team, and keep the car ride home pressure-free. Your child should feel that your love and pride are not conditional on results.

How do I help my child deal with performance anxiety?

Normalise nerves by sharing that even Olympic athletes feel anxious before big moments. Help them focus on what they can control - their effort, attitude, and preparation - rather than the outcome. Simple breathing routines before events can help. Most importantly, remind them that no single game defines who they are.